"It is seven months since my mother died, and I sometimes get queries on how I am doing, so I’m sharing an update. My mother’s death meant I lost the person my life had been revolving around for the last several years.
My typical day’s structure, necessary for caregiving, became redundant when she died. My sense of identity changed. My role, responsibility and activities needed a rethink. Given the sweeping change caused by her death, I think I’m handling my situation well enough."...
..." Different people must be using different ways to handle readjustments and redefinition of life. So far it seems to me that, for me, there shall be no dramatic waking up one morning to find I’m all energetic and “new”; I am traveling on a slow and gentle curve, turning just a bit with each unit of work I do and each neatened up idea I put down and then set aside. And somewhere down the line, I would have cleared up enough mental and emotional space to get the time and energy to explore things and experiment with directions I have deferred earlier. Let’s see what life uncovers".
A Caregiver from India describes her experiences of supporting her mother through late stage dementia: